So, it’s almost Valentine’s Day. Does this thought fill you with excitement, dread, sadness, mooniness? Every year I get a few extra calls around this time: women (mostly) wondering if they will ever have a Valentine’s Day that is filled with joy and partnership. “Do you think it’s too late for me to have love in my life?” asks the 20-, 30-, 60-year-old-caller. “I wonder if maybe it’s just not meant to be,” says the fatalist. It’s a challenge to be a counselor in those moments because somehow people think that there is a deity up there in the clouds deciding for each of us whether we deserve a partner in our lives or not. Let me say this right up front: You do! It is our birthright to have love and happiness in our lives! It is not a contest that we must win or lose.
So why are some people “lucky in love” and some not? Well, it has a lot to do with our willingness, which in turn has a lot to do with our faith in life and in others. What do I mean here? If we are willing to risk the vulnerability, the possible pain, the demands that we look at ourselves and get in touch with our challenges, then the likelihood of finding a soulmate increases tremendously. Having faith in life and in others opens us up to explore, to watch, to listen and most importantly, to connect!
Are you someone who stares in absolute shock at others’ abilities to flirt and have fun? Do you find yourself holding back, feeling awkward, not trusting, not WILLING to be hurt aga
